I feel so cheesy writing these tips. I just worry that they will be
used badly and come across as false. However, there is always a good
way of doing things and a bad way of doing things and my hope is that
you incorporate techniques and tips into a social setting- only once
you are feeling great about yourself and your life- and in all honesty-
if you truly are feeling great you wont need this tips anyway!
One more thing these Flirt Tips should not be used to manipulate or
harm another person. Flirting is meant to be fun! And do not feel bad
about wanting to expand your flirting and social skills- its natural
and healthy- teasing is an innate part of our human nature- its sexy
and builds attraction. Men actually really like it! so learning how to
be a great flirt is actually a skill that brings joy and fun to any
connection.
1. The Neg
Made famous by Neil Strauss's hillarious and fascinating book "The
Game" this technique works just as well on men and is it does
women...but only a certain type of man. If you are dealing with a
sensitive guy or a man lacking in confidence use this with extreme
caution (or not at all!)
The truth is most good looking and/or high status men attract women to
them very easily- it is not hard for them to turn on the charm and get
a lady to go to bed with them. So these men are naturally wired to like
women who are a challenge. The basic concept of the neg is to subtly
put down the person you desire.
example setting: you are at a dinner party and the guy you like
obviously works out- some of the women at the table start talking to
him about working out. You say something like- "your not one of those
dudes that drinks egg whites and protein shakes all day are- i always
think when i see guys like that- relax live a little!" or if hes really
cocky- (with a little flirty eye contact) "meh ive seen way bigger
muscles"- or if you wanna soften the blow... say the above statement
and then say "like these puppies right here" and point to your own
puney biceps- This will probabally crack him up and start a jokey
connection between you.
See for the right type of guy this technique is like foreplay- it
signifies a challenge and playful banter can really sex up a
conversation.
2. The Body Touch
while talking to a guy you can subtly touch parts of your body to
increase the heat between you both. i read about this technique
recently and didnt really think i used it but then i watched myself the
other day and realise i do it all the time! the key is subtle people!
or it will be too much. avoid all sexual zones! and just touch areas
like your neck, and shoulder, or collarbone- this should appear natural
like you are not delibirately touching yourself to be sexy, more like
you have a little crick in your neck and you are massaging it for a few
seconds- like you are not even thinking about sex- but he definately
will be!
As with all Flirt Tips use with caution
only use this technique once you are confident you have good game- or
you could look desperate.
3. Reverse Psychology
I know alot of women that are constantly stroking mens arms, staring
into their eyes and overpowering mens space with a sexual energy- to me
this is not sexy- its desperate. I rarely touch men in social settings-
i joke about how i find social hugs and physical contact awkward- of
course this makes them want to touch me more...Always realise that
confidence is everything yes some women touch men alot and it works for
them- if it comes from a confident place- thats o.k- but my advice is
dont over do it. most men are a little bit excited by a challenge and a
little contradiction in a person can be pretty sexy.
I am going to go into all these Flirt Tips and many more in much more
detail when i put out my ebook stay tuned!!
